Technology Killed the Telephone call.
Remember running for your phone, excited that it might be the call you have been waiting for, afraid to leave the house in case he or she calls, the excitement, anticipation and build up. You answer the phone and your mouth is dry with nerves...
The thing is this is becoming a thing of the past and its sort of sad, as we now have connectivity like never before the build up and romance is gone. I can remember taking the telephone into the hall cupboard for privacy to blush; this was as far as you could go or it came off the wall.... remember when phones didn’t move around the house?
Now we have mobiles, iphones, emails, Skype, social media and probably other technology I have missed. My point in with all this improved technology we appear to have lost the ability to really communicate. Of course the benefits are obvious and instant, in business huge leaps are made, deals done across continents, advertising sold as 3 clicks away, marvellous.
Just not as romantic though is it? Even the language is being lost, I personally hate terms like GR8, LOL and other abbreviations. Texts have their place as an addition to phone calls in a relationship but as standalone they just aren’t as personal. If I am dating someone I want to be worth a phone call, I want to hear their voice and not be fobbed off with a message.
It comes down to value, respect and romance, women still want to be courted, still want to feel appreciated. If you have to text and you really can’t talk, at the very least make the text sound warm, if you are dating it shouldn’t be a brusque, one line that could be sent to a business colleague.
Men are telling me they want women who are feminine, caring and intelligent; women are looking for gentlemen who are articulate, warm, honest and trustworthy. If you are genuinely looking for a person of this calibre, you need to make the time and let them into your life.
One ten minute phone call in the evening to ask how their day has been will be worth far more than a hurried text or worse an email. If you haven’t the time for courtship and romance when you are dating, you have precious little chance of maintaining a relationship.
Dating should be exciting, you should want to hear their voice; it should take more than a text message to talk over your days. You can’t get to know someone properly within 140 characters on twitter or a string of text messages.
I use Skype for work and am horrified at the number of propositions and offers of tawdry photographs I receive; we seem to have no values any more. Why would I want to connect with a stranger and be sent raunchy photographs, sad, perverted and I expect lonely individuals.
We need to get back to proper connectivity with people not gadgets, communication and real flirting can be a huge turn on, the frisson of Elizabeth and Mr Darcy or even the High School Musical films, would we love them as much if they texted the dialogue, no we would miss the feelings.
A real emotional connection and feelings cannot be shown with Smiley’s on a text message or a photo of your body part on a text message. I have 3 love letters I was sent by my first boyfriend at 15, lined A4 paper with pictures in the margins and his feelings scrawled across both sides of the paper. Not the works of Keats or Bryon but heart felt, time laboured and very cherished. I have yet to print out an email or keep a text that meant anything.
Bring back romance, courtship, valuing each other, respect and flirtation.