My close friend commented to me on Twitter that all I needed now was a Prince Charming, this throw away comment got me thinking, would I want Prince Charming?
I know there are hundreds of thousands of women who see themselves as beautiful Cinderella characters, whose miserable lives are out with their control, who dream of a big strong handsome man who will make their lives happily ever after......
The problem with this fairytale is that it’s actually rather grim whilst you are dreaming of someone on a white charger you are avoiding sorting your problems out for yourself. Cinderella was a pleaser, she lacked assertiveness, wasn’t strong enough to leave a relationship which we would now label as domestic abuse. In no time in the story does she stand up for herself, even at the ball she is unrecognisable as herself!
And poor old princey I mean he is presumed to shallow to notice or fancy Cinders until the fairy godmother does a Gok Wan on the girl, he dances with her all night as she pretends to be something she isn’t and then she runs off at the end of the night lest he doesn’t like her without her finery?
Modern life is not a fairytale but women and men have more freedom and we don’t need to strive for unattainable perfection. We need to be confident about whom we are and honest what we want out of life.
Miracles do happen and people do fall hopelessly in love but if you are waiting for someone else to change your life for you, you could be waiting forever.
If my Prince Charming rides out to meet me I will be on my own charger ready to tackle any problems together, and if he needs my help I will be there for him.
I love fairytales, happy endings and Disney schmaltz but women and men need to live in the real world where our imperfections make us interesting and our own company is preferable to living with someone as a better alternative to being alone.