A photo paints a thousand words…..
Dating is fast becoming an art, a commodity and a quick fix. Personally I feel we are losing the courtship, intrigue and suspense of new love. That said we need to be realistic, move with times and embrace change. Often we will have only 1 chance to make the right impression.
Browse any online dating site and be prepared to become very shallow very quickly, with such choice as the internet can give you will fast become dismissive and perhaps unkind on first glance at a profile picture. It is human nature to have certain attributes that attract you and others that repel you, I think photo’s are in general misleading.
Some people take a good photo naturally, some spend hours getting the picture right and the majority in particular men post the first photo of themselves that they find on the PC.
If you are spending £10-£25 per month on online dating or hundreds on Bespoke services I really think a one off £30 or £40 spent with a photographer is money well invested. Photography is a skill, you may be adept with your personal digital camera but I would suggest you pay a hairdresser for haircuts and a photographer for important photos.
Your online photo is in essence your brand, your identity and your first point of contact with your would be mate, get it wrong and you will miss your chance.
I am well aware of the recession and can give a few tips for those loath to spend their money.
If you are fuller figured have the photo taken from slightly above with your head slightly at an angle to the camera, this will avoid a view of cleavage and chins, the disadvantage is any prominent noses will look larger…. It’s a trade off….
If you are slim try and have a photo taken from level or slightly below you giving you more presence, this angle will also soften any angular face shapes.
For ladies full length shots are always best of you have one leg slightly forward and angle your upper body slightly, to give curves a hand on hip position is good if you can do it without it looking forced.
Avoid any really strong patterns, these will probably only appeal to 50% of viewers, not worth alienating half your prospects. Ladies fussy broaches, scarves and necklaces will distract from your natural elegance. Gents novelty ties are a no no as is un designer stubble.
Most people regardless of gender find orange faces unattractive for men that means less fake tan, for women go easy on the foundation.
If you are after sex, show as much cleavage; bare torso’s, as you want. If you are after a loving relationship dress for respect, something smart casual, flattering but not club wear.
Most men I speak to will be aroused by scantily glad women with bad hair extensions, fake tan and heavy make up, there is few who would like a meaningful relationship with someone who looks this way. In concurrence women including myself love to look at muscular men in the gym etc on a dating site standing with only a towel adorning you will make you seem more an annoyance than Adonis.